over a black forest coffee

So I had an impromptu date with Ichiro yesterday. He was supposed to have a medical check up but we arrived after the cut off.  So off we went to National bookstore to buy some stuffs for Jiro. While I was browsing through the books on sale, Ichiro showed me 2 books about planets so I said okay. Then he showed me again another book this time about learning how to play chess and with that sweet smile convinced me to include it in our shopping basket. Oh well,  he’s been asking me to teach him how to play chess but I’m not sure if I can still play that well. I’m not even sure if I still remember the moves of each chess pieces. I’ve been procrastinating on this task since last year and I know I’m a bad mom for being such. Good thing he knows how to read already so I’m off the hook I guess Besides, he was able to get 3 new books so I guess we’re quits. Hehehe…

I promised to let him taste my fave Black Forest beverage in Pizza Hut so we went there after NBS.  My kiddo loves fine dining.  After he sat down he asked for the menu to pick his choice of meal.  I asked him if I could leave him there for awhile so I can get to an ATM machine because they don’t accept debit cards. He said it’s okay and put out his new books to browse. I asked the guard to keep an eye on him. I actually have hesitations but I assured myself that he’s big already and that I can trust him to act properly and stay in his place. Besides, the ATM machine is not that far. When I came back, our food is already being served. I felt proud of Ichiro.

And this is just one of our bonding moments where I ask him how he is and if he has any concerns about me or school or anything. I also take advantage of this moment to explain some arguments we have for the past week. This is where I point every misbehaviors or disliked attitude he did for the past week and why Mama has to give such punishments. Of course I did that already on the same day when he committed it. But knowing Ichiro’s attitude, he won’t listen or give up that easily unless he really have to. So I have to remind him every now and then. It’s always best on moments like these where we are both in a cool mood. We always have a great time after and he’s closer to me afterwards.

And speaking of attitude… Ichiro sometimes let his pride get in the way of our relationship. Too young to show that kind of attitude but that’s already one of his odd trait since he’s a baby. When he doesn’t get what he wants he never does wild tantrums but instead he won’t speak or come near me. Even if I repeatedly explain my side in a calmly manner it will take him time to open up. I get impatient too. So to blow off some steam, I take a break off away from him. After some time he’ll come to me not to say sorry but his opinion on what happend. Oh yes, he will still try to make a point but this time I give him choices. He either follows me or go find another mother who will follow him and not care for him like I do. So there goes another distance and eventually he’ll say sorry after realizing probably that he cannot choose another Mama and he’ll just have to live  that I’m his mom and he has to follow .

I always remind them of Mama’s Rule# 3. They know this by heart since age 2 along with Rules number 1 & 2. I ask when I remind them: “What’s Mama’s good boy rule # 3?” And they goes like:  ”When Mama says NO, it’s a NO!”

Most of the time it works. But if not,  I would just have to extend my patience a bit MORE.

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